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The definition of being a good friend is not always making the other person in the relationship feel good. Sometimes, the truth won't make them feel good, and if you keep it from them because you're afraid to hurt their feelings, you are not being a good friend. If someone you care about needs to get a reality check, you should be the one to give it to them. You'll know how to deliver the news with the compassion and sensitivity they deserve. And you'll show them you are a good friend.

Real problems require real solutions, not just window dressing. You have to get to the root of the issue and face the truth about what is really going on here. The time when you could just smile and pretend that everything is okay has long passed, and you need to admit that things have gone in a direction that could be best described as disastrous. The good news is that you have the power to change it, you just have to get up and get going! Start making the changes you want.

Strong compassion will come into play when you feel the urge to come to the defense of someone. This person's ideas or actions are not popular with the group, and some people could be giving them the cold shoulder, socially speaking. Follow your gut and show them that while other people aren't willing to give them the benefit of the doubt, you are. You always benefit when you embrace the unique qualities of the people you interact with. 

Pay closer attention to your dreams, they may help you identify patterns that could shed a lot of light on your life. Your subconscious mind is working while you sleep, playing out different potential scenarios and showing you alternate ways of looking at the world. Sure, most of the images are weird or downright disturbing, but sometimes being disturbed is the best way to wake up from the monotony of routine. Your brain is hungry for a change in your life, and your heart should be, too.

Even if you don't totally understand all of your deep feelings, you should not hide them, especially from the person who is causing them. This is a time to let the sun shine brightly on yourself, to put your heart on your sleeve and let everyone see it. Whether you are angry, nervous, excited, or all crushed out, hiding that fact will only create a much bigger mess for you to deal with. Just let it all hang out and deal with the consequences, whatever they may be.

At times, we feel guilty of getting upset even over minor mistakes of someone who is close to us. We sometimes lose control, verbally or maybe even physically abuse the one we loved until after you realized that its not their fault and they should not have to be punished. Your frustration of life out of them can be difficult at times but you must accept that your relation is more important.

If you have ever done this, the best thing to do is to apologized and make a promise to yourself that you would never take out your frustration and/or problems on someone else. After all this things, you can look straight in the eye of your love one and feel their love and trust unconditionally. Don't ever let lose the love and trust due to your ability to control your aggression. Don't get upset with them over something that is immaterial.

Remember, nothing can replace the hearts and love of your love ones.

Since God has given us hunger, and since we have a physical body to look after, we must have money and we should earn it honestly and scientifically, by serving the right needs of our fellow beings. Business life need not be a material life. Business ambition can be spiritualized. Business is nothing but serving others materially in the best possible way. Those stores that start out with the idea of only making money are readily recognized as commercial money-making dens. But stores that concentrate on serving customers with the best articles at the minimum cost will succeed and will also advance the moral development of the world.

It is better for to accept a fight than to run from it. Conflict is seldom enjoyable, but sometimes it is absolutely necessary. You have to stay true to what you believe in. Otherwise, why bother believing? Face the fury of those who disagree with you, and rely on help from the people who do agree with you. They are large in number, and strong in their dedication. Be direct and don't mince your words. The clearer you are in your own defense, the sooner the clash will be over.

Let love fill your heart completely as the image of you both dissolves in the light. Stay in this place of love and forgiveness for a moment, remembering this peace of body, mind and spirit. After doing your inner work, the final step in the forgiveness process is stating your intentions to forgive others in the conflict. We all hold good intentions, and when you can align your actions and intentions, you become a powerful agent of forgiveness. Make this step your own by making a call, a letter or an email of forgiveness. And then allow the conflict to end, holding no strings or attachments to the event.

If you have to spend time with someone who you don't really respect, try not to be unfriendly. Smile and treat them the way you would like them to treat you. Kindness is not only more polite, it is smart. You will get a lot farther if this person has good feelings for you than you would if they thought that you're always rude to them! Show them that you are a person who is good to work with. Show them you're respectful. Get the last laugh by having them help your reputation grow.

Be extremely careful about who you share your secrets with, make sure that they can handle the responsibility. Even one of your most trusted friends might not be able to resist passing on some juicy news, so keep that in mind before you spill your guts. Are you putting them in a tough position? If what you know is too hot for public consumption, then it might be wiser to hold on to it. Everyone will know the real deal soon enough, and then you can say that you knew it all along!

You might be wishing that you could escape the headaches in your life, but even if you could fly away from the earth like a bird, you would have to come back down to earth eventually, and these issues would be right there waiting for you. So you need to be more grounded, it's necessary for you to face up to your responsibilities and do what needs to be done. If you try too hard to avoid things, you are only delaying the inevitable.

You will have to be honest about what you think when you are asked to give your opinions, whether it might hurt someone's feelings or not. There is no point in sharing your thoughts unless you share all of them, completely unedited. Tell them the good and the bad and don't candy-coat anything, it's only going to waste their time. Being critical is sometimes a challenge, but it is one you can handle. You can clearly see what's wrong and what's right.

Effective communication is not as easy for everyone to achieve as it is for you, so be on the lookout for people who really need help getting their meaning across. You can step in at the right moment to clarify their thoughts and help them get on the right track. Also, expect to have a very interesting conversation with a random person, someone next to you in a line, a fellow commuter, or just someone riding the elevator with you. Don't miss your chance to connect.

how great it feels when you set a goal and then reach it?..... more you achieve, the more motivated you become to achieve again..... experience the wonderful sense of fulfillment, enjoy how good and right it feels..... move quickly to something a little more challenging..... focused effort can go a long way toward building your confidence, your ambition, your enthusiasm and your effectiveness..... once you take a few positive, productive steps, a whole new world of brilliant possibilities will open..... make a little success, soon it will start to carry you forward..... there's no limit to where you can go from there......

kaELyam

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